Perhaps the most important thing we bring to another person is the silence in us. Not the sort of silence that is filled with unspoken criticism or hard withdrawal. The sort of silence that is a place of refuge, of rest, of acceptance of someone as they are.

-Rachel Naomi Remen


One of my favorite quotes is by Emily Dickinson.

“I felt it shelter to speak to you.”

I have felt this shelter in someone else and it is a treasured thing to have in space and time. It is transient and impermanent. The shelter of a souls comforting silent presence is numinous. Because I treasure this so deeply, I hope that I can be this same treasured shelter for others.


“You’re talking to the plants, Mom?”

“Of course I’m talking to them. I put them here so I have to take care of them and make sure they are doing well. Would you do well if I just stuck you somewhere and never spoke to you?”

“No. I’d come find you to talk to you cause I’m ‘nnoying.”

“And see, so is the jasmine. She’s twined herself as tall as I am and started popping her flowers open. She’s saying hello, so why wouldn’t I say hello back? Plus, she made the walk way smell delicious. She’s doing everything she can to get our attention, so we should give it.”

“They do smell good. Can we eat these flowers like honeysuckle?”

*jasmine shakes in the wind*

*hake my head*

“We don’t have to consume something just because we like it. Just let it be and appreciate it.”