Settle the self on the self.
– Walt Whitman, Song Of Myself
The other day I was having a fair little crisis of my self. Pinching and measuring and comparing myself to all the whole, wide world and finding short coming after short coming, failure after failure.
My sweet friends reminded me that “no, life isn’t a competition” and “look, Allison, look how far you’ve grown and how well you’ve done getting away from your past.” I remembered that I do the things I do because I deserve my love and effort just as much as the whole wide world. I deserve my compassion, too.
Like everything, growth and self acceptance is not perfectly linear. We just have to keep at it. Practice makes progress, not perfection.